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Saturday, July 9, 2011

Getting Divorce After 27 years of Marriage!



My daughter announced last week in FaceBook that she is getting a divorce from her husband of 27 years. I was so shocked my voice trembled as I told my wife of what I had just read in FB. My wife and I had no hint that her marriage had not been happy. We just visited them four weeks ago and stayed overnight and we did not see any signs of unhappiness in the house. We know they have financial problems, since they have no luck selling their house because of the depressed real estate market here in California. After recovering from the initial shock, I told my wife to call our daughter and tell her we support her decision and if there is anything we can help( except financially) to just let us know. My daughter has two adult children 20 and 18years old. They are both in college. The announcement( titled new Adventures) was simultaneously posted in FB by both my daughter and son-in-law. Today, my wife is still upset and asked me if it was her mistake/fault that our daughter is getting a divorce, that is we did not raised our children right. I responded definitely not and told her not blame herself of what is happening now in our daughter lives . This sad news however inspired me to do an Internet search on Divorce Statistics here in US. Here's what I found.

Divorce Statistics in America

Current divorce statistics in America is estimated at 50%.This data is not accurately correct, however, it is reasonably close to actual. The Americans for Divorce Reform estimates that "Probably, 40 or possibly even 50 percent of marriages will end in divorce if current trends continue.", which is actually a projection. *

Source of this Divorce Statistics: Jennifer Baker, Forest Institute of Professional Psychology,Springfield

The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%. The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%. The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%.
* Source of this Divorce Statistics: Discover Channel

Description Statistics

State with the lowest divorce rate Massachusetts (2.4 per 1,000 population)
State with the highest divorce rate Nevada (9.1 per 1,000 population)
Percentage of US population that is divorced 10%
Mean age at first divorce For Males: 30.5 yrs.
For Females: 29 yrs.
Median age at second divorce For Males: 39.3 yrs.
For Females: 37 yrs.
Median number of years people wait to remarry after their first divorce For Males: 3.3 yrs.
For Females: 3.1 yrs.
Average length of divorce proceedings 1 year.

* Source of this Divorce Statistics: Divorce Magazine

Note: My daughter says this is going to be an amicable divorce and they will continue to raise their two children as co-parents even though they are already adults. On another side note, I asked my wife of 54 years and 2 months, if there was a day in our marriage life that she felt like divorcing me. She replied never, but several times I feel like killing you! So, to all my readers that are still happily married, my advice is to share 100-100 not 50-50. 100-100 sharing means you accept your mate totally not only his strength but also his or her faults and weaknesses as well. There is no perfect human being. That we all agree!

My next posting on this subject will be a list of the most common reasons of divorce in US. Have a Good Day or Night to you All!

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

The tension in their mariage must have been there for some time now. It must have been way back before 4 weeks ago. I hope your daughter finds happiness in her new direction in life. Someday when she feels up to it, she would be opening this up to you in private, not for the consumption of your readers.

Have a great day.


Joe Cruz

David B Katague said...

Hi,Joe! Thank you for your comment and feedback and your wish for my daughter's happiness. She has already confided to my wife the reasons of her decision to leave her husband after 27 years. As parents and grand parents( our daughter is 50 years old), we are still worried about her. She however assures that she will be ok and just ask for our prayers and support.

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